Engaged in 3 Days, Together 30 Years

Thirty years ago I got engaged to a man I’d known for three days. We spent three evenings after meeting talking on the phone.

Had never been on a date.

Never held hands.

Never kissed.

And it was the most outrageous thing ever. Only….it made perfect sense.

Three decades later, it’s still one of the most outrageous things I’ve ever done. And also one of the most sensical things I’ve ever done. Because some earthly encounters are so surreal they defy logic and reason.

I didn’t believe in love at first sight. I’m still not sure I do. Love at first sight is NOT what we experienced.

But I DO believe you can meet someone, and know immediately, deep within your soul that you share a connection that transcends limitations of time and space.

It wasn’t love at first sight. It was recognition at first sight!

Something in his soul, recognized something in my soul and we both knew, intuitively, that we were destined to be together. Something otherworldly was at work. Something serendipitous. A cosmic force that pulled our souls into the ether of one another’s existence as if we were rotating planets destined to share a common orbit.

On the day we were introduced and exchanged phone numbers, I uttered a silent prayer: “God, don’t even let him call me without praying first.”

And when my phone rang later that night, he paused after a few minutes of conversation and said: “I believe God told me I was supposed to pray before I called you. And in my excitement I forgot. But I want to obey that leading. Can I say a prayer now?”

I said okay. And we were on the phone until 5 AM the next morning. And the same the next night. And the same the next night. But on the third night he led with a statement: “I’m going to say something that makes no sense in the natural, but it’s something God has shown me that you already know. I believe you’re supposed to be my wife.”

It wasn’t a proposal as much as it was a declaration of knowing.

In hindsight, I can’t say that he ever actually proposed. But he was right. I knew! We didn’t FALL in love. We just loved. And I have no earthly idea how that’s possible. Though I may have a heavenly one. But it just WAS. We just WERE. Three decades later….we still are!

I’ve been graced to spend over half my life married to my best friend, soul mate, travel buddy, partner in adventure, fellow stargazer, and the amateur comic who makes me laugh more than anyone else on the planet.

And as an analytical thinker, minimally emotional, predisposed to logic and reason…. I’m forever grateful that 30 years ago, I trusted the leading of the Spirit, the inner knowing of my soul, and the guidance of my intuition.

I’m glad that I was brave enough to follow a path that was embraced by some, and that made NO sense to others.

Because THAT outrageous decision, that had NO basis in human reasoning, was one of the best decisions of my life. I am 30 years grateful!



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